How To Deal With a Breakup
As humans, we know heartbreak as well as we know love. When two people fall in love and enter a relationship, they don't consider the possibility of the relationship ending in a breakup. Falling in love with the person feels eternal. And yet, situations and complications arise, causing even good relationships to end. Heartbreak and love are two sides of the same coin. And dealing efficiently with heartbreak after a breakup is as essential as learning how to be in a healthy relationship. Breakups are tough, and to someone experiencing one, they can feel like the crumbling of the world. When one feels such intense heavy emotions, it is important to know how to deal with these emotions without letting them harm us.
Turn to your friendships
We have often been told that relationships may not be forever, but good friendships often are. Unfortunately, when we are in a relationship, we tend to give lesser time to our friends. To use this breakup to reconnect with those friends and rekindle your friendship, reminding yourself of the importance of that friendship is a wise thing to do. Good friends help us analyse ourselves while also offering support in our lowest moments. Reconnect with them, share your sorrow with them, and make the heart ache a little lesser.
Keep yourself busy
An idle mind is a devil's workshop — we have all heard this phrase ever since childhood. And an idle mind can indeed be a space where unwanted thoughts enter and bog us down. To avoid this, we must indulge in tasks that keep our minds occupied and also give us the satisfaction of being productive. So wake up, make a to-do list for yourself (this list can include the smallest of tasks), and at the end of the day, feel the joy of having completed all that you had planned for the day.
Re-learn yourself
When we're in a relationship, we tend to forget ourselves. Our own likes and dislikes become entangled with those of our partners. Use the breakup as an opportunity to care for yourself, to revisit the hobbies that you perhaps left behind, tend to your own likes and dislikes, cook the food you love, go to a spa day by yourself. Re-learn yourself by journaling your thoughts, understanding your own emotions and doing the things that bring you joy as an individual.
Being in love is a beautiful feeling, and while breakups feel like the end of love, they don't have to be. They're the end of a partnership, and you can still carry love in your heart for that person while letting go of the attachment you had with the person. So give this time to yourself and celebrate your independence. And while this heartbreak feels permanent and as heavy as a rock sitting on your heart, remember that it will get better. You will find joy and love again. And you will be able to look back at your former relationship with more love and less sadness.
